Do Not Cut the Words of Others into Stone
This blog will be pretty much me exploring my personal take on how to streamline my life and my mind by using a few tools I have learned here and there. Hopefully, you the reader may find something useful to take with you. I am by no means an expert at anything. I am a student of life and learning to navigate my own reality.
The very things that can be tools for growth and exploration can also be obstacles to those same goals. For example, I have a vivid imagination, full of colors and movement. Great for creative endeavors such as my song writing or teaching. Not so helpful when trying to understand the world around me. I am also a literal thinker, which truly is a field of heavy cement in a mind trying to understand the world around it. I have degrees in Science following those rules, data, making objective observations are easy for literal thinkers. A literal thinker can be naïve and over trusting, believing that everyone means what they say, the rules are followed, and limits are for a reason. it is also the easy way to take, "Well that is what they said!". So here is my first rule for streamlining my life:
Do Not Cut the Words of Others into Stone
This one is pretty hard. We need to believe what people say, trust their word. But people misspeak sometimes. Maybe they said something a bit too emphatically when they really only mean it half heartedly. Or they change their mind a week later.
"You said you loved me!"
"You said you would back me up when I complained."
"You said you would be here at 10am but you weren't."
People say things all the time. But it is what they do after they say things that matter. We've all had a friend who was the Over Promiser or the Big Planner.
"I'm gonna march right in there and give my boss a piece of my mind!"
"I will love you forever."
"When I get some extra money we are going to live like Kings!"
It's just words. The pretty flowers that bloom for a bit then fade. It is the seeds left behind after the blossom is gone that matters. Take the words of others lightly and you will avoid disappointment and in turn, you will not think less of the person and yourself. You are not a fool to believe when your ex said they would love your forever, they might have meant it at the time, carried away by the moment, the sunlight in your hair, the rush of hormones, the way you held hands. At that moment the words matched the feelings. Those words have value for that moment only. The actions of the person afterwards is what makes the sentiment real.
posted by Autumn @ 5:46 PM
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